Courage and bravery can mean anything to anyone. To me, courage is doing something that is uncomfortable, something that causes my heart to race, something that will help me grow as a writer, and as a person.
Courage is defined as “the ability to do something that frightens one.” And also as, “strength in the face of pain or grief.”
I have written about courage many times before, and I think it is important enough to write about again. I have written about my mantra–Over the Edge, how I found these three powerful words and why I use them.
Having courage to send my words out into the world, for people to read, and for people to criticize, is important to me.
“It takes bravery to find yourself, your true self.” Dedra Davis
It takes courage to act upon it.
If I had never found that courage four years ago, I would still be dreaming of writing and not doing it.
If I lose that courage, I lose my will to write. I try to stay brave in my writing, I don’t want to ever stop. I try to keep up the courage to submit my work to be published and one way I do that is to challenge myself in other ways.
To keep the ugly little voice out of my head, I must keep moving forward, grow, and stretch myself in my writing. Courage keeps the little voice of confidence around and hushes the ugly little voice of doubt.
You can do this in your daily life, as well. By challenging yourself out Over the Edge. Over your edge, whatever that may be. Challenge yourself. Find the courage to do something that causes your heart to race.
I have found that I grow stagnant and content in my writing. Without challenging and stretching myself to go beyond my comfort zone, I stand still. And while sometimes standing still is the best thing you can do, other times you get stuck.
I don’t want to get stuck.
Writing from home has become so comfortable; I have begun to stay home more because staying home has become more comfortable than leaving. I don’t want to become a hermit. Many great writer’s have written outside the home, long before WiFi, and while I am not comparing myself or suggesting I am a great writer, I have decided to follow in their footsteps.
Being at a restaurant, by myself is a great discomfort. I find it makes me look lonely and desperate. This is such an absurd way of thinking and I wish I didn’t feel this way. So, I am doing something about it.
I have challenged myself to write at a coffee bar. This may sound like such an easy task, not a challenge at all for you. But for me, a bit of an introvert, it takes a lot of planning and energy.
It takes courage.
Courage to walk into a coffee bar, by myself, filled with young, hip people. People either engrossed in the computer or engrossed in conversation with friends. Engrossed in laughter and coffee.
“Courage is hard, but once you jump, it feels so great. And once you land, there’s nothing quite like the feeling of that self-power.” Dedra Davis
Last April, I challenged myself to go to a coffee bar by myself, and although I did it, I admit I didn’t enjoy it. I stayed about an hour and slinked out. While I was proud of myself for going, I didn’t return. I thought about it a lot, but still never went back.
I found myself in a strange place in February. I was getting stuck. So, in March, I challenged myself again. Go to a coffee bar, try it again. So, I did.
I enjoyed it more this time. I stayed almost two hours. And when I left, I smiled.
Two weeks later, I went again. Easier still. When I had to leave because of an appointment, I felt disappointed.
Was I enjoying this solitude among others?
I know I was enjoying the coffee.
“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” Neal Donald Walsh
The following week, I went again. (Waco has many great coffee bars!) And this time I stayed longer still. And felt so comfortable and at home. I wrote. I did social media marketing. I went through emails. The point is—I did it, and I did it again. And again. And I ended up enjoying myself. And, I will continue.
So, you may ask why I want to challenge myself to write in a coffee bar?
- It gets me out of my comfort zone.
- It gets me out.
- It gets me away from distractions of home.
- It gets me among other people who are creating.
- It gets me great coffee.
I challenge you to find something big, or small, and do it. Do something out of the ordinary. Do something to shake things up a bit.
“We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.” George Bernard Shaw
Take up painting, take a class, go to a gym, a yoga bar, start volunteering, go to a library. Do something in your business that scares you. There are many ways you can challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone, to shake things up a bit. You won’t regret it and you might just feel more alive when you are through with your challenge.
You won’t believe how good it feels when you realize you just stood up to your fears and survived. And not only did you survive, you enjoyed! You feel alive and ready to challenge yourself again!“Courage is hard, but once you jump, it feels so great. And once you land, there’s nothing quite like the feeling of that self-power.” Dedra Davis #dedradaviswrites #courage Click To Tweet
I hope for you a challenge, and discomfort within yourself, that gets you moving. It can be anything, big or small, out of your reach. Reach for it and feel how good life feels!
love and blessings~dd
“If you simply exist in life, your life will cease to exist.” Dedra Davis