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Putting others first

Putting others first is a noble and smart thing to do. It is not always the easiest thing but it is almost always the wisest choice.

Sometimes, when you are down, putting others first, not thinking about your problems, is the hardest thing to do.

When things are bad in your life, it is easy to become a bit selfish and wallow in your own troubles. I promise you, if you do this, you will stay in the pity-hole.

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The best way to get out of that pity-hole is by putting others first.

“If you want to lift yourself up, lift up someone else.” -Booker T. Washington

I learned a long time ago, when I’m down, I must ask for help. I can’t get out of my blue mood by myself.

How do I do this? Who do I turn to?

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I pray. I turn to prayer. I pray to get out of my funk but I also pray for others. I learned that if I ask God to help me get out of the funk, He always answers. It does not happen immediately. But it always happens. I smile again. Every single time. God is always putting others first.

We must do the same.

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Now, this does not mean that my troubles are gone. But I am out of that pity-hole I was wallowing in and I can help myself, and others, if I am in a better mood.

“It’s that wonderful old-fashioned idea that others come first and you come second. This was the whole ethic by which I was brought up. Others matter more than you do, so ‘don’t fuss, dear; get on with it’.” -Audrey Hepburn

I learned that if you think of others, pray for others, you make a lot of people happy.

  • You make God very happy. He wants us to think of others.
  • You make the person (or persons) happy because you are praying for them and God listens.
  • You make you happy.

“Above all the grace and the gifts that Christ gives to his beloved is that of overcoming self.” ― Francis of Assisi

“Above all the grace and the gifts that Christ gives to his beloved is that of overcoming self.” ― Francis of Assisi Click To Tweet

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Thinking of other people, removing yourself from the center, putting others first, by praying for others, changes your entire prospective and you stop thinking (if even for a minute) about your own problems. God rewards you, also.

It’s a win/win!!

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And the Lord restored the fortunes of Job, when he had prayed for his friends. And the Lord gave Job twice as much as he had before. Job 42:10

I hope for you no pity parties, no blue moods, no darkness. Let us not ‘fuss, dear’; let us ‘get on with it’. I’m praying for you today. I’m putting others first. Will you join me?

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Love and blessings~dd

*While I believe prayer always helps, I recognize that true depression, that was diagnosed, will take a bit more than prayer.  Please don’t think I believe you can just get over it.



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I am a late-in-life journalist that is God-fearing, husband-loving, with three beautiful grown children. I love my dogs, my family and my friends. I love traveling and am also in the process of discovering Waco, after living 20 minutes away since 1998; it is about time! My goal is to grow and push myself daily.

9 thoughts on “Putting others first”

  1. Such a great reminder. Sometimes becoming ‘selfish’ is too easy. I have found (and took a long time to learn this lesson), that as I lift others up, encourage them and cheer them on—I am the one who reaps a beautiful reward of joy and growth. My life’s work is to offer hope. And I can’t think of a better thing to want to give to others! Thanks for this lovely article Dedra!

    1. You’re welcome. Thank you for reading it. I agree. Helping others and lifting up others is addicting because not only does it make the other person feel better but it also makes you feel great!

  2. It definitely isn’t the easiest road to take, but it is always the better road! I’m in the middle of a situation where someone completely took advantage of me because I put others before myself, and it’s hard to see their “success” and my back burner position…but I keep trying to remind myself that in the long run, the big picture, it doesn’t matter as much, and that the relationships I was able to build with others through the experience way outweigh the “woes”. One of my favorite quotes and stories is about a missionary who wrote to his father saying that things weren’t working and he just wasn’t making much headway and felt useless. His father wrote a one line letter in response: “Gordon, forget yourself and go to work.” I think about that story often. Putting others first is the way to do life!

    1. Wow! That is powerful! That is amazing and I might have to hang on to that! Thank you for reading this and I am sorry about that someone. You will win in the end, for being the bigger, better person. That is a hard one to swallow though, isn’t it? He knows. And it will be ok.

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