Age Gracefully-Four Things Your Mother Should Have Told You

Age Gracefully-Four Things Your Mother Should Have Told You

They say, age gracefully. Graceful is not a word ever used to describe me. I have always stumbled through life, and I suppose I will stumble in my older years, as well. I hope I age gracefully. If I would have listened to my mother more, perhaps I would be gracefully aging more.

You probably did receive this advice from your mother.  You may or may not have listened. I hope you did.  If not, read this.

They say, age gracefully. And yet, we have all the age-defying products available to us. There is surgery after surgery available to us. We could get enhanced and lifted on every area of our body, if we wish. And some do. If I don’t like the sagging skin on my elbow, there’s a surgery for that.

Age Gracefully-Four Things Your Mother Should Have Told You


How is that aging gracefully?

I feel we need to start thinking differently about aging and the number of candles on our cake.

Age Gracefully-Four Things Your Mother Should Have Told You

Why do we fight the aging process? Why do we dread birthdays? After all, what’s the alternative?

As children, we love birthdays. We can’t wait to have yet another candle on our cake. And then, we turn 25, and then 30, and society tells us to hide our age. Fake it, lie, or be ashamed. And at the age of 40 and 50, and beyond, we are dreading more candles.

Age Gracefully-Four Things Your Mother Should Have Told You

Why do we listen to society?

I think we should stop. I think we should shout our age from a rooftop! “I’m 52! Look at me, I am 52!”

I think we should stop hiding our age after 39. Or 29. Celebrate it! Shout it! Be the age you are. Be proud of the years you have lived-don’t hide the years. Blow out all those candles with pride.

I have fought my age my entire life. Having an August birthday, late August, I was always the last—last to drive, last to legally drink, last to vote. And now, it’s the opposite. Now, if I am the youngest of my friends, I find myself bragging and joking about it.

Age Gracefully-Four Things Your Mother Should Have Told You

But why? Why do we dread our birthdays? Birthdays are meant to celebrate.

If I could give you some advice, some advice I wish I listened to when I was younger, it would be this:

Live your healthiest life, but have that cake, and eat it, too. Life is short.

  1. While you are still young, spend as much as you can on eye cream and neck cream. Buy the good stuff, as expensive as you can afford. And even if these products aren’t name brand, use these products every day, starting in your twenties, or before. You may think you have no problems now, and you probably don’t, but you will. If you start using these products now, you will have less issues in your fifties, and beyond. And, the habit will already be in place.
  2. Sunscreen, sunscreen, sunscreen. I can’t say this enough. We all know it, but we don’t all listen to this advice. Me included. It’s not until you are older that you start noticing the damage. I am not even talking about cancer, I am talking about wrinkles on your toes. Yes, your toes. Wrinkles and spots, from the sun, on your hands, arms and legs. And, toes. Once the damage is there, it’s hard to undo. It’s too late. Stupidly, when I was a teenager, I would lay out in the sun, with baby oil. (Yes, I know—horrible!! Don’t tell my mom!!)  Your “kissed by the sun” skin looks healthy now, but it won’t when you are older. Oh, and there’s also that cancer thing.
  3. Never stop moving. The older you get, the harder it is to begin. If you stop working out, your body will stop doing things, as well. Like your metabolism will stop. And, bending. Your body will stop bending easily. This is also about habits.  Never stop moving and you won’t have to begin again. You won’t have that ten pounds a year creep up on you. Go outside and play. Go for a walk, go to the park, go for a hike. Just go outside and enjoy and never stop enjoying playtime. Being one with nature is good for your body and your soul. Never stop moving.
  4. Do what you love. No matter how old you are, you can follow your dream. You can start your dream. I started writing at the age of 48. Twenty-six years after I graduated with a degree in journalism. If I can do it, you can do it, at any age! Don’t give up on your dream, no matter your age, or stage in your life.

As I have aged, I have more confidence and I have that care less factor. I wonder–Is it my age or the confidence I have developed through my writing?

Because of my writing, I no longer fear or dread my age (as much!). I have a purpose, a meaning, a reason to want to get older. I have so much I still have to accomplish. So much more to see and do. My future excites me.

And, clarity. I no longer care (as much) about what other people think. And that is freeing.

I am more me than I’ve ever been.

Age Gracefully-Four Things Your Mother Should Have Told You

So, I beg of you to age gracefully, stop fearing aging. Instead, age safely. Embrace it. Relax and let it happenAge gracefully. Get ready for it with the advice I gave, but after that, sit back, let it happen and enjoy living your life. No matter how many candles are on your cake.

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I hope for you lots of cake, with lots of birthday candles.  I also hope you listen to me and moisturize and use sunscreen so you can age gracefully.

love and blessings~dd

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I am a late-in-life journalist that is God-fearing, husband-loving, with three beautiful grown children. I love my dogs, my family and my friends. I love traveling and am also in the process of discovering Waco, after living 20 minutes away since 1998; it is about time! My goal is to grow and push myself daily.

13 thoughts on “Age Gracefully-Four Things Your Mother Should Have Told You”

  1. I just turned 38 a couple months ago and I am finally starting to notice my wrinkles and ageing on my face. On both my face and my husband’s face. I told him that no matter what the cost, we are investing in good creams – thankfully he agreed 🙂
    I loved this blog Dedra – so true! Why don’t we listen when we are young? I guess it is part of life 🙂

    1. Haha. You understand what I mean by buying the best you can afford! It’s true. Put it on your neck twice a week. You’ll thank me later! I think you look great though! Thank you for reading, Kirsten!

  2. I am guilty of not wearing sunscreen or using moisturizer but coming from you I will now make them part of my essentials

    1. If only my children would listen so easily! Haha. Actually, they wear more sunscreen than I do! I am happy you read the blog and happy you are going to be better about it.

  3. Absolutely love your writing- thank you for sharing and saying exactly what most of us are thinking.
    Yes mam eat that cake and proudly enjoy 😘

    1. Thank you, Tammy! I really appreciate that. Writing is still so new and exciting for me. When someone says something kind about my writing, it goes straight to my heart!

  4. Love this blog! Fortunately, my Grammy scared me into using eye and neck cream at a young age (about 14) and it’s been a habit for me ever since hahah.

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